There's something many people feel, but rarely put into words: There's a real difference in how often men and women orgasm in heterosexual relationships. Not in a "blame anyone" way, just in a "this is happening, and we deserve to understand it" way. Research consistently shows the same pattern: Most heterosexual men orgasm almost every time, while many heterosexual women don't. And when you compare this with the experiences of lesbian women, who orgasm at much higher rates,