8 Things You Should Never Learn from Porn

We all learn about sex somehow. For me, porn was one of the first "teachers". It felt exciting and intense, but also left me with some very unrealistic ideas.

This isn’t about blaming porn. It’s about noticing the stories it told, and how they shaped my expectations from sex, bodies and intimacy.

Here’s what I had to unlearn:

1. Bigger is better

   I used to think a 9-inch penis was the gold standard for pleasure. The painful truth taught me that connection, communication and sensitivity matter way more than size.

   
   

2. Sex should last forever

   I believed good sex had to be intense and endless. These days, I care more about being present than keeping time.

   
   

3. Pubic hair isn’t okay

   I thought being hairless was expected. Now I see it’s just a personal choice, not a requirement.

   
   

4. Orgasms must be loud and dramatic

   I assumed pleasure had to be theatrical to be real. But some of my most meaningful moments have been quiet ones.

   
   

5. Semen is supposed to taste amazing

   I believed it was supposed to be some kind of delicious treat. It’s not - and that’s okay.

   
   

6. Porn bodies are the goal

   For a long time, I measured myself against “perfect bodies”. I’m still learning to see beauty in real, imperfect bodies - including my own.

   
   

7. You should just know what your partner wants

   I thought great sex was intuitive. Now I value curiosity and communication more than trying to “get it right”.

   
   

8. Condoms are only for vaginal sex 

   I didn’t think about risks beyond that. I had to relearn what safer sex really means, in all its forms.

   
   

It took me time to unlearn all that, but it was worth it. Now I feel more at home in my body, more open, and kinder to myself and to others.