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What I have Learned from My Sexual Experience

  • Writer: Tai
    Tai
  • Jul 18
  • 2 min read

Updated: 1 day ago

After spending years trying to match an imaginary version of sex (shaped by porn and romance movies) I finally turned toward something more real: my own experience.


What I’ve learned about sex and intimacy in real life:


  1. Pleasure is personal.

    Every person I’ve been with has responded differently. What felt amazing with one didn’t always work with another. I stopped trying to follow a formula and started showing up with curiosity and presence.


  2. Communication is sexy.

    I used to think talking during sex would ruin the mood. Now I know that asking questions, sharing what I like, and checking in makes the experience deeper and way more enjoyable.


  3. Real bodies are beautiful.

    Mine included. Now I celebrate softness, scars, stretch marks, and I find beauty in the real bodies I touch and in the real one I live in.


  4. It’s okay to make mistakes.

    I’ve laughed mid-sex, paused to fix a cramp, or completely misread a moment. And I’ve learned that these moments don’t ruin intimacy, but make it human.


  5. Desire doesn’t follow a script.

    Some nights I crave slow, emotional connection. Other times, something playful or bold. There’s no “normal”. I stopped trying to fit into a box and started listening to what feels true in the moment.


  6. Consent is ongoing.

    I used to think once someone said yes, that was it. But real intimacy has taught me to keep checking in, to stay open and to always respect changing boundaries.


  7. Emotional connection matters.

    The most unforgettable experiences I’ve had were about how safe, seen and respected I felt. Emotional connection changes everything for me.


  8. I’m still learning.

    I let go of the idea that I should already “know it all”. Every experience teaches me something new. I stay curious, I ask questions, and I give myself permission to evolve.


For me, sexuality begins with being present. I don’t have to be perfect, just honest.


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